Boy Butter Blog

A Blog about being a young, gay entrepreneur in the 21st Century. Fighting friction with a mix of social and personal lubrication.

  • Boy Butter donates free products to GMHC
    As a collective thank you Boy Butter donates 164 full size tubs of it's popular water based personal lubricant to GMHC. The Gay Men's Health Crisis (GMHC) founded in 1982, it's a New York City based non-profit, volunteer supported and community-based AIDS service organization. The organization has led the United States in the fight against AIDS. "I support the important social work done by the staff at GMHC and I wanted to show them that they are appreciated for their dedication, selflessness and hard work on the community's behalf." says Boy Butter creator Eyal Feldman. "I specifically chose to donate the water based version of Boy Butter Lubricants called You'll Never Know it isn't Boy Butter, a totally water based and latex safe cream lubricant because it actually does make for more pleasurable safe sex, and safer sex is a long standing message of GMHC." 
    Krishna Stone, Assistant Director of Community Relations, let us know that the in-kind donation will be used for community outreach, distributing the products with safer sex kits at events, health fairs, etc.

    For more info on Boy Butter Lubes, please visit www.boybutter.com
    For more info on GMHC, please visit www.gmhc.org


  • Take the Fussy out of your Bottom!



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    The popular lubricant that numbs the fun parts and eases the pain of penetration for some, or delays ejaculation for others. There's something for everybody, Boy Butter Extreme promises to Take the Fussy Out of your Bottom!


  • The Badger Herald: "Boy Butter Lubricants for Anal Sex"

    Helpful advice for comfortably unlocking back door entrance

    Tuesday, March 2, 2010 9:32 p.m

    Nicolette Pawlowski
    By Nicolette Pawlowski

    I have a question that I would love for the sex team to answer for me. I am trying to discover the best approach for making anal sex sound appealing to my lady. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love the vagina, but every now and then I wouldn’t mind getting a little freaky (or freakier than normal, I guess). I have tried everything: 1. I would use lube 2. I would be gentle 3. I would warm her up first (you know, the 1, 2, 3 finger rule). She is just not having it. What else can I do?
    Bent on Upping The Task
    Dear BUTT,
    It’s definitely awesome to try new things with a partner. When it comes to the butt, however, many people aren’t interested in heading there because of some misconceived notions. Specifically: poop. Many people think the butt is simply made for the pooping function and that the moment you start playing back there poop will start flying. That is simply not true.
    So let’s do a quick anatomy lesson to dispel those worries. You have the colon and the rectum. The rectum is about 6 inches long and is the canal your finger would enter if you were to slide it (with lube) past the anal sphincter. The colon is curled after the rectum and is the place where poop is stored until it is ready to be removed. The only time you have to worry about poop is when it moves from the colon into the rectum. We all know when that happens because we all typically get that full feeling in our butt at least once a day, meaning you should be heading to the toilet some time soon. With regular bath time and wiping front to back, there will be only trace amounts of poop anywhere around the butt. If your honey is still worried about that, an enema of water before playing can remove any last traces.
    Now, dear readers, I am sure you are thinking, why play back there at all? Nerves! Bunches of them! That’s what makes sex so great! The rectum has tons of nerves that are just waiting to be titillated and stroked. And for male-bodied individuals, you can access the prostate, also termed the male g-spot. Some people swear the orgasms they have through the anus are the best they have ever experienced. Of course, others swear that a good kiss is the best high ever produced. To each their own.
    Sex in the butt can be incredible. Now that we have put aside poop fright, let’s explore how it’s best done to reach those great orgasmic heights. For someone who is just starting out with anal play, it’s best to mix it in with the regular stuff. As you are licking her clit, take a well lubed finger and lightly stroke her sphincter. You can even do some rimming (a.k.a. butt licking) as you finger your partner. Note that a sex dam (a square piece of latex that comes in different colors and flavors) can help protect you from STIs during oral sex and also add some extra fruity flavor. Mix the new with the already awesome to get your partner relaxed and warmed up for some additional anal fun.
    As you have already mentioned, you need to start out small. Start with one finger and work up. Try a small butt plug (a sex toy with a flared base) and use it while having vaginal intercourse. Because of the thin wall between the vagina and the butt, both of you will have added stimulation from the little toy. Now a time line in mind. Some butts are really tight. Some people need to take months in order to relax and allow anything larger into their rectum besides the pinky. Do not move onto something bigger until your partner wants something bigger.
    Let’s quickly touch on lube. Lube is super important because the anus, along with the penis, has no natural lubricant of its own. So you need to add some. The thicker the lubricant, the better. Silicone lubes works great because they last longer, but there are also some wonderful water based lubes made specifically for anal sex, such as Boy Butter H20 Lube. Try different ones out in every area, as different parts of your body may like different lubes.
    It’s also important that intercourse, whether vaginal or anal, be protected with a condom, unless you are both fluid bonded — meaning you have both been tested for STIs and agree to only share fluids with each other. Grab a condom that is ribbed or studded, that extra sensation can really add extra oomph.
    Now, if after you talk to her about all of these points, outside of the bedroom where there is less pressure, and perhaps after trying a little stroking of the butt while you eat her out, and she is still not interested, you are going to have to respect her wishes. If she’s not into it, she’s not into it. Sometimes no amount of discussion will get someone to try something that they don’t want. And that’s OK. Sex is supposed to be fun, for the both of you. And it can get really freaky even without anal. There are tons of different areas you can explore and try, anal sex is just one of them. Fulfill a sexual fantasy, massage each other’s feet and try some sex on the kitchen counter. Enjoy yourselves, whether in the butt or in the twat (or the feet, the ears, the neck… you get the picture).
    This article was written by Nicolette Pawlowsk and Suzie Baker. Suzie is a sexual health education coordinator and wannabe homemaker and Nicolette is a graduate student in EPS, a salsa dancer and a sexual health educator. All questions are from real readers. Keep ‘em coming! E-mail: humpday@badgerherald.com.



  • Larry Murphy 1924-2010, May G-d Rest his Soul,
    Lawrence Murphy 1924-2010

    My good and beloved friend Larry Murphy passed away last night due to complications from pneumonia. Larry was born in Illinois in 1924 and raised since the age of 12 in Walla Walla, Washington went to college and moved to Seattle and worked as a Librarian. In 1957 Larry moved to NYC and became a faithful and dedicated Librarian for the New York Public Library. He shared 46 happy and loving years with his life partner Bob Goldstein, who himself passed away in December of 2007. Due to Bob's passing, Larry grew depressed and lonely and sought out the services of the friendly visitors program of SAGE, (Services and Advocay for Gay Elders) an organization Larry supported since its founding. And it is an Organization I actively support and volunteer with.
        It was through SAGE I was paired up as Larry's friendly visitor and since Nov 4th 2008 we met usually twice a week and just visit. For almost a year and a half I have had the pleasure, honor and privilege of knowing this truly amazing man. He has taught me so much about life, history, relationships, love and now ultimately death. I hope that I brought as much comfort and joy to his life as he brought to me. He was a good, wise, intelligent, funny, sensitive and loving man. He will be sorely missed by all his friends and family.


    May G-d Bless Larry in the next life as much as he did in the previous. 

    A memorial service is being held at Monday March 8th, 4 pm at the




    Church of the Incarnation
    209 Madison Avenue
    New York, NY 10016-3814
    (212) 689-6350


  • Hasta La Bye-Bye Buenos Aires!
    After 8 days of my South American adventure, this blessed summertime reprieve is coming to a close. On my last day I went out exploring the beautiful architecture of this huge city which is in fact the 8th largest city in the world. It is very reminiscent of Barcelona but has the sheer expanse of Los Angeles. Next time I visit Argentina I would love to explore the very south of the county near to the Antarctic and walk amongst the glaciers and penguins. I would have to recommend a visit to Argentina, the people are friendly, fairly attractive, and one of the few places left where my US dollar is worth anything. I part with these words in Spanish and English.
      
    Adios Buenos Aires, me encanta esta ciudad mas grande y bella que hay en Sur America. Y muchisimas gracias a Shaul Betesh que me invito a quedar en su piso y me dio una aventura tan dulce. 
    (Traducción/Translation)
    Good-Bye Buenos Aires, I love this most beautiful big city in South America. And thank you Shaul Betesh for inviting me here to stay in your apartment and giving me this sweet adventure. 


    Photos of BA Buildings / Fotos de Edifiicios en BA
    Shaul's Apt Building
    Central Synagogue -Sinagoga Central
    Bust of Miguel Hidalgo , leader of Mexican Independanc
    Ciao, 

    Eyal Feldman




  • Boy Butter's Grapes of Wrath
    Today we headed over to Maipú, the center of wine and olive production in Mendoza's rich grape filled heartland. My travel companion Shaul and I rented bicycles and headed to La Rural Vineyards, where there was a large vineyard, winery, olive press and and housed the very educational La Rural Museo del Vino (museum of wine). 
          Afterwards we stopped for lunch at an amazing outdoor restaurant called Almecen del Sur located in the middle of the Maipús vineyards. I snapped a ton of pictures of today's excursion, live vicariously through my aventura Argentina! 


    The Following Group of Photos are in La Rural Winery and Museum
    As soon as we arrived at the winery they put me to work
    La Rural Wine Barrel  

    Entrance to the vineyards on the property, 
    (I guess Mary and baby Jesus work better than insecticide)
    Grapes of Wrath
    Vineyards to the left
    Vineyards to the right
    Barrel laden entrance to winery and museum
    Museum and wine-tasting room 
    Wine-tasting room and Barrels (Shaul in the center)
    Historical wine making and bottling equipment 
    Back to work harvesting cabernet sauvignon
    I love Oilve Oil!
    The following group of photos are for Almacen del Sur
    Outdoor restaurant
    Delicious wine and food, yummy.
    This wine tastes oaky, smoky, earthy, and tokey 
    Shaul at the restaurant entrance



  • Bienvenido Boy Butter a Mendoza
    Today started early at 5:00 am, headed over to the Buenos Aires Airport to catch our 7:10 am flight to Argentina's 4th largest city Mendoza not far from the Chilean border. The major earthquake yesterday in Chile made the airport a bit of a scene and we were delayed a about 2 hours but made it safely to our destination. Mendoza, Argentina is one of the wine producing capitols of the worlds with over 632 vineyards. But alas as everyone knows I am not much of a wine drinker, I prefer to smoke my wine. So I am not as impressed by the 632 as I am for the 420! Here are some pics from today.

    Plane to Mendoza



    Diplomatic Hotel from Pool Area
    Lunch at Pizza Place near Hotel

    Mendozan view from Hotel Room
    another view from our room
    Eyal Feldman, poolside.


  • Boy Butter does Frida Khalo (Not what you think)
    Today was perfect for two things, taking in lots of culture and lots of sun. I strolled down Avenida de la Libertador, where I saw amazing art installations, sculptures, national monuments, foreign embassies and a cultural cherry on top, the famous MALBA, Museum of Latin America Art in Buenos Aires. A picture is worth a thousand words. And I snapped many a picture on my third day in lovely Buenos Aires! 

    Facultad de Derecho y Ciencias Sociales - Faculty of Rights and Social Sciences
    Famous Flor de Metal (Metal Flower) is a 18 ton moving sculpture that opens and closes it's petals when the sun comes and goes.
     Cool domed Building in the park along Ave. de Libertador
    Statue on Avenida de Libertador
    The following images are from MALBA, 
    (I did not ask permission to use the following images : )
    Work by famous avant garde photographer Oscar Bony
    Marta and Warhol (1985) - It's a bit corny, no?
     Autoretrato con mono y loro
    Self Potrait with Monky and Parrot, Frida Khalo
    An Original painting by Botero
    Random hanging wicker bird thing.
    Live from Vacation Station,
    Eyal Feldman


  • Recoleta Cemetary in Buenos Aires
    I am staying in the beautiful Recoleta neighborhood which houses one of the most beautiful and unique cemeteries I have ever seen and it is mere blocks from the apartment I'm staying in. 
    The Recoleta Cemetery please look at some of the great shots i took.


  • Boy Butter in Buenos Aires!
          It is day one of my 8 day Argentinian adventure, and I'm staying with my ultra cool and hot friend Shaul Betesh., NYC's mortgage broker to the Stars is in Buenos Aires doing a 2 month a spanish sabbatical. I got the honor of being hosted in his amazing apt in Recoletta neighborhood of Buenos Aires. Buildings are beautiful and remind me very much of Spain. I was walking along the neighborhood's major street Santa Fe and snapped some cool photos. I love it here so far, heading to a delicious steak dinner with Shaul! Check out some cool photos from today

     Two Beautiful Building on Calle Santa Fe (above)

    Shaul lounging at Bar 6 in Palermo Soho, his favorite lunch spot.

    Thanks for helping me on this adventure Shaul!